Archive | March, 2014

While on logic……

23 Mar

A classic one restated! 

Recently, while I was working in the flower beds in my front garden, my neighbours stopped to chat as they returned home from walking their dog.

During our friendly conversation I asked their little girl what she wanted to be when she grew up. She said she wanted to be Prime Minister someday.

Both of her parents, Labour Party members, were standing there, so I asked her, “If you were Prime Minister what would be the first thing you would do?”

She replied… “I’d give food and houses to all the homeless people.”

Her parents beamed with pride!

“Wow…..what a worthy goal!” I said. “But you don’t have to wait until you’re Prime Minister to do that!” I told her.

“What do you mean?” she asked.

So I told her, “You can come over to my house and mow the lawn, pull out the weeds, and trim my hedge, and I’ll pay you £50. Then you can go over to the shop, where the homeless guy hangs out, and you can give him the £50 to use toward food and a new house.”

She thought that over for a few seconds, then she looked me straight in the eye and asked, “Why doesn’t the homeless guy come over and do the work, and you can just pay him the £50?”

I said, “Welcome to the Conservative Party.”

Her parents aren’t speaking to me anymore.


How to Stop Stress From Ruining Your Health

18 Mar


A thought-provoking TED talk from a Stanford psychologist suggests that the problem isn’t your stress but your attitude towards stress. Could the distinction save your life?

What’s the 15th largest cause of death in the United States?

If you guessed homicide, skin cancer, or AIDS, nice try, but not correct. According to a fascinating TED talk by Stanford University health psychologist Kelly McGonigal, new studies suggest the answer might be stress. A large study, she reveals, estimated that stress kills up to 20,000 Americans a year.

So how on earth could McGonigal go on to suggest that you make stress your friend? It turns out that only a particular kind of stress takes a serious toll of your health.

What kind? The kind you believe is bad for you.

Stress Isn’t Bad for Your Health…

Marshaling a boatload of scientific data, McGonigal explains that what makes stress harmful isn’t the basic physical reaction that causes your heart to pound and your palms to sweat, but your belief that this is a bad feeling.

Think of those changes as a positive mechanism your body has implemented to prepare you to meet challenges and your constricted blood vessels relax, ensuring that elevated heart rate isn’t damaging. Instead, it’s roughly similar to what happens in the body when we experience joy or courage.

“When you change your mind about stress, you can change your body’s response to stress,” McGonigal says. You can, she believes, actually “get better at stress” so it’s no longer harmful to your health.

…Thinking Stress Is Bad for You Is.

What’s more, she continues, your body’s stress response actually has other benefits based on the hormone oxytocin. Generally known in the popular press as “the cuddle hormone,” McGonigal reveals it is also released when you’re stressed. You wouldn’t necessarily think a high-pressure situation would be a great time for a cuddle, but oxytocin is actually there to drive you to seek social support to help you in difficult times.

“When life is difficult,” she emphasizes, “your stress response wants you to be surrounded by people who care about you.” And Oxytocin doesn’t just drive you to build up your social connections and, with them, your own resilience to stress, it’s also a natural anti-inflammatory that pushes your blood vessels to stay relaxed and helps to heal any stress-induced cardiovasculatory damage.

Your body, in other words, has built-in stress protection. As long as you understand this and both embrace your stress rather than battling it and reach out for social support when you’re under pressure, “the harmful effects of stress on your health are not inevitable,” McGonigal concludes. “When you choose to connect with others under stress, you can create resilience.”

Check out the complete talk below. If you have a lot of stress, it’s 15-minutes that could save your life.

Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend